I don’t know what I can say to you that I’ve not already said.
In front of family, friends, neighbors, and community, I can say this:
Today is not a beginning – We began many years ago.
Today is not an ending – There is much more for us to explore together.
I am grateful, that having moved apart, our separate journeys prepared us to come together again, and see each other with new eyes.
I love you, more than I could have imagined I would ever love anyone.
Today is a milestone on the path.
I want always to travel that path with you.
- "We began many years ago"
- John and I first met nearly 30 years ago at one of the then-many, now long-gone, gay bars in the East Village.
- "having moved apart"
- Somewhere explained in an earlier blog post. I moved from the East Village to Brooklyn
- "our separate journeys"
- Both John and I have spoken publicly about being in recovery. Speaking for myself, I needed a lot of work.
In the Summer of 2011, marriage equality became law in New York state. The next day, we had a voice message from a couple of our straight neighbors: "When's the wedding?!" All the pressure to marry came from straight friends and neighbors.
In the Fall of 2011, I ambushed John with a "surprise engagement." I secretly gathered family and friends, and proposed to John on our second floor porch. We shared dinner after at a nearby restaurant.
Many years ago, when our partnership had not yet been secured, I vowed to John: "I commit to exploring relationship with you." I maintain that vow.
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